Some men have decided this is unfair – despite the fact they’re causing it – and engage in games to gain power again.
At their core, dating games are used by people who feel powerless with the opposite sex.” The vulnerability myth So, where does the powerlessness come from?
While most men are willing to have sex with a woman simply based on her appearance, most women need to be warmed up to the idea of having sex with a guy by interacting with him and seeing how his personality makes her feel.
“Contacting someone is like losing power, so no-one wants to seem eager.It’s a loss Martin, 31 – job title: nice guy (and carpenter) – thinks is pointless.“I’m always telling mates to stop saying things like, ‘I never message a girl first because if she’s interested, she’ll text me.’ It’s an excuse to try to justify being terrible with women.Then, just before he reached his stop, he received a text saying, “I enjoyed tonight – let’s do it again sometime, J”. “By not responding to her message, I would get the upper-hand.” So, he just never did…Dating around is the new sleeping around Olly’s lack of interest in following up on his Tinder date is the cyber world’s equivalent of sneaking out of a one-night-stand’s house before they’re up; communication (or a lack of it) equals power.