Integrity, kindness, a desire to provide for a family he loves, and most of all, a healthy need for emotional intimacy.
My experiences with farming really didn’t begin until I said “I do” that hot August day. I came from a suburban realm where dads came home at 5 and dinner was at 6. You are alone a lot (this is such a big one I had to borrow it from Meggie) I’m not sure what I expected when I married a farmer, but it wasn’t eating dinner at 8 and spending my weekend by myself. Between daily chores, fixing things that are broken, supervising employees, and the crazy times of the year (planting, harvesting, haying, etc.), there isn’t much time for things like vacation, going out for dinner with friends, or weekend getaways. I didn’t mind doing some of the housework, but I doing it all just because I was the girl. This reality drove me crazy during our dating life. You’re always late The dairy makes us late for everything – church, parties, dinner at his parents’ house, vet appointments, and nights out with friends. You learn flexibility and patience Two traits I did NOT possess before I married the Dairy Man were flexibility and patience. Some might call me type-A OCDish, but I call myself organized. And, really, being a little less uptight hasn’t hurt me one bit. That being said, being married to my farmer is fabulous in so many ways. It has downsides, but I am so proud to have a husband that understands the value of an honest day’s work. Again, annoying, but I think this kind of vocational passion is so rare and admirable. Again, if you can spend hours upon hours in a dusty tobacco stripping barn with sticky hands and tired feet then you can probably handle these people for the next 50 family reunions. Lots of times the date happens when the work is done. You’re just a girl on a lunch date with the love of her life. “Make hay while the sun shines” isn’t just a catchy saying. When we were dating, we split our time together between the two farms working with each other’s extended family. Ladies, if you’re like me, your hair may be in a messy bun on top of your head or tucked under the old baseball hat. We would grab a bite to eat and then spend hours in the truck waiting in line at the stock market to load out cattle. If you can spend that kind of time in a confined space with someone, you know they’re a keeper. I knew a couple who were from the same area but never dated each other until college. His family had planned the spring cattle working around the guy being home to help. She just wasn’t prepared to deal with a farmer’s life. A lot of Fall dates with my husband were with a stock trailer behind us. It may not be featured in any popular women’s magazine but you’ve spent time with your significant other and now you’re taking a break to enjoy being together before the work begins again. When they went home for spring break they were excited to share their love with the hometown crowd.